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Hey there I'm Emma from mmmEnglish!

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There are a lot of reasons why our stress levels

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have been on the rise lately.

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Our lives are incredibly busy, full of information,

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ambition, problems and challenges to overcome.

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For me, for you, for all of us, it is so important

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to recognise stress and to try and manage it.

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It's also really important to talk about it with others

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and so that is exactly what this lesson is gonna

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focus on, thirteen common English expressions

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to talk about stress.

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So get your pens out, get ready to take some notes.

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I really want you to be thinking about

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how these expressions could apply to your life.

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I'll be sharing idioms, verbs, phrases to help you explain

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and express stress so let's get into it.

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Like I said earlier,

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we all live pretty busy lives. We work, study,

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family, responsibility,

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not enough money, not enough time, not enough sleep.

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All of these things. I'm certain

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that you have felt stressed at some point.

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If not today,

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then yesterday or last week or maybe a few months ago

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and this is how we describe people when they're

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tired, anxious or grumpy because they just have

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too much going on.

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We can feel stressed. We can look stressed.

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We can be stressed.

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And it's stressed not

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but stressed.

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So I know that it's really odd to pronounce -ed as a T

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sound but that's a really common feature of English

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pronunciation.

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When the consonant before -ed is an unvoiced sound

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like

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This is an unvoiced sound so -ed is then pronounced

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Stressed.

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This is true for the adjective and also for the

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past tense form of the verb 'stress' and I've got a whole

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pronunciation lesson about this actually,

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about past tense regular verbs.

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You can watch it up

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here if you're interested to learn a bit more about it.

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But it's also really common to hear "stressed out"

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and stressed out means exactly the same thing,

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the phrases are really interchangeable.

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Stressed. Stressed out.

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I'm always stressed out at the end of the month

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when our accounts are due.

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Are you doing okay? You look a bit stressed.

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What's stressing you out? What is it

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that is stressing you out?

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We use this phrase in the past and the present

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to talk about what's causing stress, what creates stress.

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For me,  traffic always stresses me out.

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Being in such a big crowd yesterday stressed me out.

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You're stressing me out!

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I don't want to do it because I know it will stress me out.

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So did you notice how with all of those examples,

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I was using them across tenses?

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It's a really useful expression to remember,

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to try and put into use.

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Another synonym to describe how you're feeling

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when you're stressed

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is to be or to feel burnt out.

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So when you're really tired and you're stressed

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because you've been working hard

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for way too long, you don't have any energy left

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to do anything else, that's when you're burnt out.

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By the end of final exams, both the teachers

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and the students are completely burnt out.

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And you also hear the noun 'burnout' used for that

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complete exhaustion.

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You always want to try and avoid burnout right

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by taking time off and relaxing a little.

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I feel like I've just created this whole lesson to offer

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advice to myself.

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Try to avoid burnout. Don't get stressed out.

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Now when you're worried about lots of things

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you know you're thinking about them all the time,

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it's really distracting.

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You can't focus and you're really mentally tired.

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That is when you have a lot on your mind.

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Okay so you know if you forget something

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really important or you find yourself

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not listening or not paying attention

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to someone who's talking to you,

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then this can be a really good way to excuse yourself.

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Don't take what he said personally.

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He's got so much on his mind at the moment.

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I'm sure he's just really stressed out.

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So a similar expression is 'to have a lot'

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or 'too much on your plate'.

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So think about going to a buffet right

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and you've got your plate, you load up so much stuff

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onto that plate. There's lots of delicious things

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that you want to try

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but you overdo it and everything starts

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spilling off the sides of the plate right.

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So if someone asks you to do something extra,

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you know, on top of everything else you've got to do

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that day, you might even say

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"I'm sorry, I can't do it. I've just got

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too much on my plate right now."

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Are you sure you want to volunteer at the local church?

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You've already got so much on your plate.

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So again, when you feel stressed because you've got

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too much to do or too many responsibilities

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you're under pressure.

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Okay you can use this phrase on its own

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without any further explanation.

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You can say "I don't know what's wrong with him.

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I think he's under a lot of pressure at work."

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You don't need to explain more detail

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or you can be more specific and include an action.

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You can say 'under pressure to do something' you know

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to explain what is creating that stress and pressure.

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He's under pressure to get

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board approval by Wednesday.

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It's also really common to hear that someone

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put another person under pressure.

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My boss has put me under a lot of pressure

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to present the results by Friday.

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I just don't think we can do it.

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Do you feel under any pressure at the moment?

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Is someone putting you under pressure?

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Tell me about it down in the comments below.

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Okay so this is very similar to 'under pressure'

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but perhaps a little less formal right.

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If you're under the pump,

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it usually means that you have a specific task

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that you need to do and there's a limited amount of

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time that you have to finish it in so there's

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urgency right? It's not just that you have

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a lot of work to do

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but you also have a limited amount of time

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to get it done.

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I won't be home by five tonight.

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I'm under the pump to get this report finished today.

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This expression has some great imagery.

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What happens if you burn a candle

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at both ends?

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Very quickly, there won't be any candle left, right?

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So if you're waking up early, going to bed late

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in order to get more work done, then you are probably

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burning the candle at both ends and you're probably

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feeling exhausted and very quickly,

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you'll completely run out of energy and enthusiasm

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to get the task done right so this expression is great

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for when you are doing a lot,

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you're still coping but right now

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you know that you can't continue to work at this rate

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for much longer, right?

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You're burning the candle at both ends.

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Please try to take it easy over the weekend.

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I'm worried you're burning the candle at both ends

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and we need you to perform at Monday's meeting.

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This is definitely not a good scenario when you

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overload your schedule and trying to finish everything

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but you completely exhaust yourself.

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You burn yourself out by working too hard.

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That's when you're working yourself into the ground.

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Or you could say you're running yourself into the ground,

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it's the same thing.

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And interestingly this expression is usually reflexive

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so the subject and the object are the same.

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We say

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I ran myself into the ground.

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Or he worked himself into the ground.

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I know I got sick

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because I worked myself into the ground.

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And that's when you're at breaking point.

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Oh no, you can tell that things are getting worse

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by the second here right?

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This is bad when you've reached breaking point.

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It's that moment when the build-up of stress

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is so big inside of you that you break.

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For me, this usually ends up in a whole lot of

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tears and stressful crying.

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Can you think of the last time

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that you were at breaking point?

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Hopefully, it's not too recently

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or it doesn't happen too often

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but have you ever been at breaking point?

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Let me know about it.

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To come apart at the seams.

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This is another really fun idiom to imagine.

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So imagine a stuffed toy, one that's been loved

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for many years. He's very worn out and the seams,

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the stitching starts to come undone,

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and the stuffing starts to come out.

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You know that he's not going to last for much longer

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right, eventually the whole thing falls apart

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and that is the feeling behind this phrase.

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Everything is falling apart. Everything's going wrong.

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Our customer complaints are up thirty per cent

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since our manager resigned.

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Everything is coming apart at the seams.

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So you can use this expression in your home life,

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personal relationships and also at work as well.

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It's really versatile.

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To snap.

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This is a really great verb, it's a reaction

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to being stressed or under pressure right.

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So stress sometimes causes us to lose control

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and we snap.

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In an instant, we're not our normal selves,

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we're annoyed, we're frustrated, we're angry.

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And if we snap at someone,

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we yell at them usually without warning,

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usually it's quite unfair.

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Stop watching TV! You've done nothing else all day.

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That was me snapping at you because I'm stressed out.

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I'm sorry I snapped at you. I've just had a really long day.

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And an even more aggressive response would be

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'to bite someone's head off'.

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Sounds dangerous. Of course it's not a literal expression

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but it's a great way to say that someone's really

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freaked out and lost control because of stress.

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They're annoyed, they're frustrated,

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they yelled at someone who was probably innocent

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and not asking for it.

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And it's like whoa,

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okay,

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calm down.

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My boss basically bit my head off

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when I tried to ask for an extension!

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It was a bit unreasonable.

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So I hope that this lesson wasn't too stressful for you

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and that you did learn a few new

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and interesting expressions that you're able to

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practise and explore this week.

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Now I know that I shouldn't be getting you excited

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about seeing someone stressed but try to

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look out for this type of behaviour this week.

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You know if you see your boss or a family member

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stressed out about something

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see if you can

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apply some of these expressions you know.

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Keep a notepad handy, a journal, just write them down.

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If you're feeling stressed as well

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it's actually good stress relief to write down

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and to vent and to let all these things go

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but try to use some of these expressions as you do.

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And for your final challenge today, I want you to choose

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three of the idioms or expressions

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that I shared in today's lesson

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and write a short paragraph using them

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down in the comments below this video.

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I'm going to come down, check them out

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and give you some feedback if you need it very soon.

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Thank you for joining me.

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Like I said, I hope I didn't stress you out

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or you're not too stressed

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but it is important to be able to talk about

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how you're feeling right.

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Make sure you check back for new videos

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full of everyday useful English expressions

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just like these ones.

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I will see you in the next one.

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Bye for now!