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Well hello everyone and welcome
to this English lesson about

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reactions. In life you
sometimes go and see a show.

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You sometimes have a
conversation and you react. You

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express how you feel after you
see that show or after you have

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that conversation or after
someone tells you something.

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Human beings often react in
different ways. We react in

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good ways. We react in bad
ways. We react in ways that

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show our emotions. So in this
English lesson I will talk

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about a lot of the different
kinds of reactions you can

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have. Sometimes you react by
saying something. Sometimes you

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react by doing something.
Sometimes you react by simply

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feeling a certain way after
someone says something or after

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you see something happen. Um so
anyways once again welcome to

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this English lesson about
reactions. So the first one I'm

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giving is an action. Sometimes
when you see something you like

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in life you'll give a thumbs
up. Now a lot of people ask me

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why do you say thumbs up and
not thumb up? This is only one

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thumb. This this is two thumbs.
So you can give two thumbs up.

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But for some reason we also say
to give a thumbs up. You know I

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went and watched John perform
at his performance and he did a

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great job. I gave him a thumbs
up at the end. So you can

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physically give someone a
thumbs up. But as all of you

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know you can also give someone
a thumbs up on a video. If you

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at the bottom of this video
there's a little thumb and if

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you click it you're giving me a
thumbs up a thumbs up always

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means you like what you've seen
you like what you've heard you

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you're giving positive feedback
to that person so if you wanted

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to give me a thumbs up you
could right at the bottom of

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this video you can give me a
thumbs up. Sometimes when you

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see something you are amazed.
The reaction you have is that

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you feel amazement. This
happens me when I see a

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magician. So here you have a
magician and he has pulled a

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rabbit. He has made a rabbit
appear out of a hat. He has

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pulled a rabbit out of a hat.
If I saw this I would be

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amazed. The reaction I would
have is I would have a feeling

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of amazement. So when someone
does something that is just

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hard to understand how it
happened. Sometimes you feel

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amazed. Sometimes you feel
shocked. Generally when you

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feel shocked it's a negative
emotion. It's when you find out

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that something happened. Maybe
a bad thing. And you don't know

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what to think and you don't
know what to do. Let's say that

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your brother was on a trip and
he got in a car accident. If he

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called you and said bro I got
in a car accident. No he

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wouldn't say that. He would say
hey I got in a car accident.

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I'm fine. You might be shocked.
You might be shocked to hear

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that your brother was in a car
accident. So generally shocked

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is a negative emotion. It's a
feeling of surprise. And it's a

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feeling sometimes of disbelief.
Not sure if you can hear that

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but the I'm a little shocked
right now because the storm has

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started earlier than expected.
Taking a back. When you are

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taken aback it means that
something has happened that you

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weren't expecting. Um maybe you
went to a movie and you thought

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it was a family movie and it
was going to be a funny movie

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and you and your kids were
going to enjoy it. But then you

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find out it's actually an
action movie with lots of

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violence. You might be taken
back. You were expecting a fun

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family movie but instead it was
a a very scary movie with lots

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of car chases and and lots of
fighting and lots of violence.

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You might be taken aback. So
you weren't expecting the movie

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to be about that but for some
reason it is. And pleased. So

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pleased is just another way of
saying happy. When you are

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pleased it means that something
has happened that you wanted to

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have happened. Many people in
northern countries are pleased

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if it snows on Christmas day.
So on Christmas day if there is

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a nice little snowfall. Like
this lady is very pleased

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because it's snowing on
Christmas day. Well I'm

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assuming it's Christmas day in
this picture. Um but yes you

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are pleased. It means you are
content. It means you are

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happy. It's always nice to be
pleased I think. Sometimes you

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can be pleasantly surprised as
well. But a reaction to my

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reaction to snow on a on a
Christmas day if I wake up on

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Christmas day my reaction if I
saw snow would be to feel

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pleased or to be pleased. You
can say it either way. Now this

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is kind of an opposite
reaction. When someone is

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outraged it means they are very
very angry. Generally when

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people react with outraged when
people are outraged something

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has happened to make them
angry. A lot of times people

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are outraged at the same time
as other people and you end up

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with something like this which
is a protest and I thought it

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was kind of funny because they
just have a side that says no.

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So they're outraged. They're
annoyed about something. So

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their reaction to something
happening is to feel anger is

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to be outraged. So not a nice
feeling but that is how people

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sometimes react. Sometimes
people react by getting

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offensive. Sometimes you are
offended by something someone

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has done. I've blurred out the
word here. But if you are

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playing this word game and
someone used a swear word or a

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bad word. You might be
offended. You might react by

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being offended. They've done
something that has offended

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you. And so your reaction is to
be offended. When you're

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offended it means you're
annoyed. Or even a little bit

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angry at someone for something
they did. So may someone used a

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bad word. Maybe someone did
something that you don't think

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is proper. Something that you
don't think is okay. You might

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be offended. Another way people
are offended is sometimes

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people will spray graffiti on
the walls of buildings and

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they'll spray bad words and
they'll be offended. Because

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somebody did that. Grateful. So
when you are grateful it means

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you are thankful. It means that
some has done something and it

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made you happy. Someone did
something kind for you. So a a

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good example of this would be
this. When I watch a YouTube

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video that helps me learn to do
something I'm thankful. I am

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grateful. My reaction to
watching the video is to feel

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grateful. Then usually I give a
thumbs up when I when I am

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grateful for a video that I
have seen. Stunned. So when you

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are stunned It means something
has happened that you weren't

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expecting and you didn't know
what to say or what to do. You

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were almost frozen. You were
unable to act. You know if

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someone let's see. If someone
did something you weren't

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expecting. Let's say you know
if my mom used a swear word I

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would be stunned. I I wouldn't
know what to say or what to do.

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So you know there's a swear
word in English that starts

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with F. We call it the F word
or the F bomb. If my mom use

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the F word. Um I'm not going to
spell it but I think you know

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what I mean. I would I would be
stunned. I I I'd be like what

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just happened? I I wouldn't
know what to say and I wouldn't

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know what to do because my mom
never swears. In my whole life

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I have never heard my mom use a
swear word. So I would be

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stunned. That's how I would
react. If you are livid it

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simply means you are really
really angry. So sometimes like

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if my boss had said you have to
drive to work today even though

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there's a snowstorm my
colleagues would have been

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livid because it's dangerous
right now to drive. So when you

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are livid it simply means
you're very very angry. Um so

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if you're very angry you you
say mean things sometimes. So

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if my boss said everyone come
to work now I don't care that

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it's snowing. Uh we would
livid. I don't know if I would

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be. If I had a four-wheel drive
vehicle I would drive today I

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think but I don't. Moved. Now I
think I've talked about this in

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a previous lesson. Um sometimes
you react to a piece of art or

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to something like an orchestra
by feeling moved. Your reaction

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as you sit in the audience and
listen to the music is you feel

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moved. It's deeply emotional.
It makes you happy or it makes

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you sad or it makes you
experience all different

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emotions. You are moved. So
when you say that you feel

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moved or you felt moved. It
means you experienced a lot of

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emotions when experiencing
something very cultural like

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music or art. Um and then you
can also use it as moving

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right? It was a moving
experience. Grossed out. So

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when I see something like this
I'm grossed out. Grossed out is

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an interesting English phrase
that means to feel disgusted or

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sickened a little bit or
annoyed it's all of those

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things together. Um when I open
the milk up and smell it. If

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the milk has gone bad I'm
grossed out. Cos it it just

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smells horrible. When I see a
pile of garbage and it stinks

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and it's just not nice I'm
grossed out. So one of the way

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you react when you see
something like this is you you

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just feel grossed out. You're
like oh I was grossed out the

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other day. I was carrying the
garbage to the road and the bag

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ripped open and stuff fell out
on my good clothes and it

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stink. I was grossed out. Fired
up. When you are fired up when

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you are playing a game or a
sport you want to be fired up

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when you start. Sometimes
players get into a huddle and

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in the huddle they try to get
each other excited for the

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game. They try to get fired up.
One of the ways you react when

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someone scores against you is
you might be fired up. You

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might have new energy and a
desire to play really really

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well. You get fired up. So what
that is definitely something

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that means to excited to have
lots of energy and to try and

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do well. Delighted. So when you
are delighted you are simply

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really really happy. So we have
a picture here of a man and a

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woman and the woman is
expecting a baby. So they are

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probably delighted. So when
you're happy you're right here.

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Sad is down here. Delighted is
even higher. So if you're

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delighted you just feel super
happy. Super excited. We would

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often use the word delighted to
talk about when people are

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expecting a baby. Um you know
they're expecting a baby and

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they're just delighted. They're
super They can't wait. Baffled.

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So baffled is simply another
word for confused. Um if I was

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at this stoplight I would be
baffled. Because I wouldn't

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know if I can go or if I need
to stop. So my reaction would

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be that I would feel baffled.
I'd be like what's happening

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here? The one light says green.
Straight ahead green to the

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right and the other light says
red. So I would be baffled I

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would be confused. It's an
exact replacement for the word

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confused. I was writing a test
the other day and I was baffled

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at question two. I was writing
a test the other day and I was

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confused about question two. I
see the chat. Amen saying I'm

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delighted to be here. Thanks
Aman. Fuming. So fuming is the

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same as livid and the same as
angry or very angry. When you

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are fuming you are really
really mad. When I picture

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someone fuming. When their
reaction is to be extremely

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angry I always picture smoke
coming out of their ears. When

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someone is fuming probably
because of the French word fume

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possibly but fuming to me would
be someone who is extremely

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angry. Um something has
happened and their first

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reaction is to become very very
angry. Uh they are fuming.

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After I eat a really good meal
my reaction is usually to feel

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very satisfied. When I eat a
meal I am satisfied. Um I have

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a feeling of fullness and I'm
very happy. Uh and I am very

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satisfied. So this will be
happening to me a couple of

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times. It will be happening to
me in a couple days. It will

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also be happening next week
when I go to my sister's house.

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I will feel satisfied. It
should be should be a nice day

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I think. Drained. So one of the
ways people react to a really

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long day is they feel drained
at the end of the day. So this

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person has their head down. I
feel like their reaction to

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studying all day. It looks like
someone who's in school. Their

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reaction is that they feel
drained. They are exhausted.

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They are fatigued. They are
really really tired. I'm

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laughing at Harry three 00
saying I am calling Bob. Cos

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people could hear phone
ringing. I guess everything's

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happening during this lesson
today that can distract me. My

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reaction to the phone ringing
was to ignore it by the way. So

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I ignored the phone. Um I'm not
feeling drained but I am

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feeling a little bit what would
I say distracted during this

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lesson. So hopefully you can't
tell. Elated. So this would be

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similar to feeling delighted.
When you are elated. Um it just

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means you are feeling super
super happy. We often use this

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to describe how someone reacts
to good news like getting a new

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job. So if you have a friend
who's looking for a job. They

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might call you and say I got
the job. I got my dream job.

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I'm elated. So it simply means
They are super happy. Um that

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and they often when people get
a job when they're looking for

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a job they look like this guy.
Just super super happy. Super

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super excited. Now we have
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something mean to you or when
someone does something mean you

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often react by getting upset.
That's how we describe it. You

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can say I am upset or you could
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now I am upset or I got upset.
Um but yes often in life people

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say things that are just not
very nice. Um or they do things

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that aren't nice. And we would
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upset. It's not nice when
people are upset. Um I like it

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when everyone's happy. So
pressured. So this is another

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feeling. This is something that
you can feel and you react when

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when someone tries to get you
to do something. Teenagers

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often react to friends by
feeling pressured. When you

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feel pressured maybe someone
wants you to smoke cigarettes

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and you don't want to smoke.
Maybe someone wants you to do

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something Maybe your friends
are like let's go steal some

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things from the local store.
You might feel pressured. A lot

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of other people want to do
something and you don't want to

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do it and they keep trying to
get you to do it. So your

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reaction to that might be that
you feel pressured. Um

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sometimes when I am on the
internet I feel pressured to

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buy things from certain
YouTubers. They try to Convince

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you to buy things and then I
feel pressured. Um I try not to

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make any of you feel pressured.
I try to make you feel

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welcomed. It's a different
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you are embarrassed it means
you just feel like everyone's

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looking at you or maybe
something happened. So one

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thing that can make you feel
embarrassed is this. I walked

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around one day at school and my
zipper on my pants was down a

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little bit. In English we would
say your fly is down. And then

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I realize it about an hour into
the day. I hadn't taught any

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classes yet but I was
embarrassed because my zipper

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wasn't done up. Um you might
when you're a kid be forced to

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wear clothing that you think
looks funny and you might be

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embarrassed to go to school. So
when I was a kid my mom bought

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me some T-shirts that I didn't
like. And my reaction was that

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I didn't want to wear them. Um
I felt embarrassed to wear

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them. They actually nice
T-shirts now. Don't think it

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was too big of a deal.
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something by feeling cheated.
Okay when you feel cheated it

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means that you were expecting
more. Or it doesn't necessarily

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mean someone stole from you.
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Um I feel like cereal boxes and
cracker boxes and cookie boxes

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are getting smaller but I'm
paying the same amount of money

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and when I open the box there's
less in it. So I'm feeling

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cheated. My reaction when I
look in a box of crackers and

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realize that the box is this
big and I paid for this much

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air and I paid for this many
crackers or cookies. I feel

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cheated. My reaction is I feel
like they stole from me. They

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didn't actually steal from me.
But my feeling is that I have

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been cheated. Not a nice
feeling. Affirmed. When you are

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feeling affirmed when your
reaction is that you feel

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affirmed. It means that someone
has told you you did a good job

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or someone has made you feel
good about yourself at work if

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the boss says good job Bob I
feel affirmed. I feel like I

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did something good and I feel
like someone has recognized me

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for doing something good. I
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It's a very very nice feeling.
Pessimistic. When you are

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pessimistic it means you are
reacting in a negative way. Um

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if someone says here's a cup of
water and you might see it as

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half full if you are
optimistic. But you might see

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it as half empty if you are
pessimistic. When you react in

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a pessimistic way it means you
see the negative side of

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things. You are being very very
negative about something. When

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you react in an optimistic way
it means you are being very

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positive about something. So
another good example would be

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this. Someone might say oh it's
too bad there's a snow storm

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now we can't have our Christmas
party that's I'm just annoyed

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by that or someone could say oh
what a beautiful snow storm I

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love snow I can't wait to go
outside and play in it so you

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have a negative or pessimistic
reaction or a positive or

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optimistic reaction you might
feel dismayed dismay is a

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reaction that I would use to
describe sadness at receiving

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bad news. Sometimes you just
feel dismayed. You might be

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trying to get your driver's
license and you keep failing

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the test. You would feel
dismayed. Your reaction would

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be to feel dismayed. You would
just be sad because you haven't

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passed the test. Maybe your
plan is to study English every

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day. And you just keep yeah you
just keep forgetting to do it.

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And all of the sudden a month
has gone by and you haven't

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studied English at all. You
might feel dismayed. You might

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feel very very sad. Abandoned.
So this happens to me sometimes

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at work. I'm working with a
team of teachers on something

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and then one by one they all go
to do something else and

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eventually I react by feeling
abandoned. It's not nice to

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feel abandoned. This means that
you are all on your own. You

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are alone and you can't do what
you want to do. So sometimes

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you just feel abandoned when
everyone finds something else

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to do. Sometimes when I talk to
my mom she'll say that I

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haven't visited her enough and
I react to that by feeling

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guilty. When you feel guilty
you feel a little bit sad about

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something or you feel like you
didn't do what someone wanted

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you to do. Um I don't often
feel guilty. But sometimes when

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I don't do things I should be
doing I feel guilty. I feel bad

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about the fact that I haven't
done something. This dog looks

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guilty. I'm going to guess that
this dog ate something it

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wasn't supposed to eat. Or
maybe chewed up the couch or

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some other piece of furniture
and now the dog looks very very

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guilty. So it is reacting by
feeling guilty and looking

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guilty. Self conscious. So
sometimes you get a haircut and

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you feel like everyone's
looking at you. So your

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reaction to getting a haircut
isn't to be happy. Your

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reaction is to feel
self-conscious. You are worried

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that maybe the haircut doesn't
look good. You're worried that

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everyone thinks your haircut
looks funny. So in that

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situation we would say you are
feeling self conscious. Um it's

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not a very nice feeling. Um I
think because I'm a teacher I

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don't feel this very often. I'm
often in front of people. So I

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don't think about it as much
but sometimes when people have

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to speak in public. They feel
self-conscious. They are

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stressed and worried because
they think everyone is looking

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at them. Relieved. So last week
Jen was sick. So she took a

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COVID test. Um and she was
relieved. Her reaction was to

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be relieved when she found out
the test was negative. I think

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many of you have taken these
tests when the results are

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negative. You react by feeling
relieved. You are very very

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happy. You you feel less
stressed. When you're relieved

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it means you feel less
stressed. Um but certainly

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feeling relieved is a nice
feeling to have after something

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goes your way. And then of
course sometimes people react

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to something by feeling
thankful. Um or being thankful.

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You could say oh I was thankful
yesterday because I was able to

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get all my Christmas shopping
done. I was thankful because my

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mom sent me a Christmas card
and it was really nice. Um and

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you might be thankful that
you're able to watch this

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lesson right now. So I will
thank you for watching. I'm

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going to react to you watching
this by being thankful and you

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can react by thanking me as
well. So